Do you feel lonely among people? Probably you suffer from the Outsider’s Syndrome!
How many times have you felt lonely being surrounded by people? And even when these people have a family bond with you? If this feeling of loneliness is familiar to you, you suffer from the Outsider’s Syndrome! This condition brings a sense of being a foreigner or stranger within our own family normally since childhood. It is common in this period of life that the child feels rejected by their parents and older siblings because they feel misunderstood. They say the child is “speaking Greek”. What determines this syndrome is the degree of evolution of the person compared to the ones surrounding them, even being in the same family.
Despite of the saying that teens usually use when they are angry to their parents “I never asked to be born!” Yes, we had chosen our parents before this reincarnation, in the intermissive period or “in between lives” period, which is the period between one reincarnation and the following, the period lived in the astral plane when you re-evaluate your just finished reincarnational experience and plan the next one. Our parents and us discuss and choose each other based on the karmic combination with the help of our spirit guides or mentors. We could ask ourselves “Why have I chosen such a difficult relationship with my parents?” Actually, we choose on the learning we can have from a specific experience, and all of it from a range of options discussed and agreed with our parents. An important point here is that the suffering we go through with the living with our family, what’s more, in any human relationship, in other words, any suffering is an effect of ignorance, or an incomprehension of the lessons to be learned. We evolve when we own, apprehend and learn from experience. The suffering experiences keep being presented to us until the moment we own them, apprehend them, and extract from them the experiential knowledge. Lessons not owned and understood keep coming to us karmically until we face and integrate them.
It is a law! And even pursuing the harmony in your family relationships, overcoming barriers and differences if you still feel quite alone, uninvited and rejected, it can lead to emotional disorders such as timidity, anxiety, panic, neuroses, etc. This condition is basically caused as a result of very low self-esteem since everyone around you is very different from you and most of the time keep forcing their values on you. The major difference is the clash of your ethics with the ethics of the group you are surrounded. What is left is a feeling of “banzo” that embitter the life of the outsider. “Banzo” is a feeling of melancholia that several African slaves used to feel due to their separation from their homeland, from their culture and reality, where they were free and felt belonged and integrated within their society. And after being enslaved it was common to them stop eating or speaking as a protest or even committing suicide.
The “banzo” feeling is not so different for the ones who feel an outsider within their own family and the surroundings where they relate and live. Because this “banzo” feeling is an unconscious reflex of a feeling of missing a place or time which you cannot precise because it refers to a period before your reincarnation, the “in between lives” or intermissive period. A period when you lived in an astral city/village within the same karmic group of similar vibrational evolution level.
When still in childhood some people suffer the separation from their “homeland”, in other words separated from the beings with similar level of evolution. As it’s very difficult for someone who has a different degree of sensibility and sensitivity from the ones around them showing themselves more altruistic, respectful, and thoughtful living together with selfish, cold, mean and two-faced people. The hurt becomes a constant sensation in the lives of those people who are more ethic, sensible and sensitive but still have not realised their own value. And that is the key point for your liberation, finding your self-worth. And if this is your situation what you need to do first is to find your “karmic family”. A group of people you have affinity, the ones with similar values and vibration for you to be introduced to a new reality, a “new way to relate to each other”, where you feel accepted, respected and valued. This will happen only if you are in contact with your essence, your true self. And when you vibrate at your core true self you will attract those kind of people to your life. This is for your workplace, new friends, or even in your love life, because while you do not balance and find yourself you will keep attracting selfish, egocentric and gold-digger people who do not even recognise the love you are sharing and the only thing they know is to “love” themselves and keep repeating their karmic patterns since childhood and feedbacking their bitterness and feeling of loneliness.
So, own your individuality with your qualities, do not bargain your self-worth in order to please whoever it is! Do not “adapt yourself” to conform into what you are not, to be accepted and manipulated. The price you pay for this conformity can be too high. Don not let yourself go into the emotional game of blackmailing, accusations and contempt, the game that some people in a less self-awareness state know how to play when they meet more conscious, ethical, sensible and sensitive people who are seen as passive or a doormat. It is perfectly possible to be pacific and loving and strong, courageous, and truthful respecting your own standing point. Above all, pursue your self-discovery and self-worth, and meet and keep the ones who value this and you will strengthen your self-love. This approach will bring to you people who will love you the way you are and will share the same evolution path since they speak the same language, the language of love, fair mutual exchange in every act and gaze.
